Your wedding day is one of the most memorable days of your life. Designing Memories is dedicated to delivering fresh ideas, informative tips, and expert advice to couples as they plan one of the most important events in their lives. We hope you will be inspired by our blog and welcome you to contact our partner vendors!
This may not sound easy, but decide
on a budget and stick to it. When deciding on a budget choose five things, as a
couple, that are the most important elements that you may want to spend a little
extra money on. Bottom line: if it is not essential and you are not going to
look back on your wedding day wishing you got “fill in the blank” for your
special day then you should consider doing without that item. That being said
if you are able to save big on an item that otherwise would have taken up a lot
of your budget or choose to eliminate something feel free to treat yourself to
that something extra you wanted, but be sure to discuss it with your partner
2.Should we get wedding insurance?
Wedding insurance is always a good
idea but not a necessity in most cases. It is a great way to protect your
investment and some wedding venues require you to purchase wedding insurance
when you book your date with them. To get full details and/or purchase
wedding insurance go to travelers insurance: www.protectmywedding.com or
www.wedsafe.com. You will notice below is a partial list of items your wedding
insurance may cover depending on your provider and chosen level.
If the bride or groom is unexpectedly called up
to duty, or her or his military or service leave is revoked, forcing you to
postpone the event, we can provide reimbursement for non-recoverable expenses.
If the wedding needs to be postponed because
sudden illness prevents the bride, groom or their parents from attending, you
can receive reimbursement for non-recoverable expenses.
3.Is an “off-season” wedding really less
Yes. If you are planning to
have your wedding between November and April (especially January, February, or
March) you will save about 25% on your wedding. By booking off-season you have
a much better chance of getting discounts and special offers from many of your
vendors. Another money saver would be to book your wedding on any other day of
the week but Saturday.
4.Can we count on paying for our wedding with
the monetary gifts we get from our guests?
NO. Never count on the
monetary gifts to pay for your wedding. Great Aunt Gertie may have a mansion
and quite a bit in the bank, but maybe she has not been to a wedding for a long
time and still thinks thirty dollars is a great wedding gift. All joking aside…This
is truly not a good idea because you are taking a huge gamble on there not
being anywhere near enough money to pay for your wedding. You won’t want to be
ill prepared to pay for all of the bills that will inevitable be arriving.
Also, many vendors require full payment the week before your wedding anymore so
paying after the wedding may not be a possibility at all.
5.If my parents, in-laws, or other family are paying for our wedding completely
or contributing to a special element of our wedding should they be allowed to
have say in how we spend the money they offer?
Yes. It is only fair to include them in
choosing the element(s) they are financially assisting you with. Many will not
force their opinions and ideas upon you, but if they want to be fully involved
there are many ways to appease them without giving up your own dreams. First,
ask them if they would like to be involved and if so ask them which element(s)
they would most like to be a part of. Second, go with your fiancé for the first
appointment with “Vendor A” to see what your options are before you get too
many opinions and ideas thrown at you. If they did not go to the first
appointment invite them to the next appointment to show them a small number of options
that you and your fiancé liked the best. This way they will feel involved in
the process, no one will get overwhelmed, and you will still have something
that is just what you have wanted. Also, involving them from the beginning by
taking them to an appointment will help you to avoid possible issues and
resentment later. Finally, be sure to write them a nice thank you card or take
them out to dinner as a thank you for their support.
6.Is it okay to ask parents or close family to help pay for your wedding?
Yes, but do go about asking in
a tactful way. Be prepared with estimates, photos, and vendor information ahead
of time. Being prepared will help to make them comfortable in helping you and to
be aware of the current pricing. After preparing be sure to set aside time talk
to them so that you will have their undivided attention. Start with friendly
conversation about your wedding and show them some photos of cakes or venues
you have been interested in. Approach the subject gingerly, but direct enough
that they understand what it is you are asking of them. For example tell them
that you and your fiancé were trying to figure out how to budget for your
wedding and were wondering if they would consider helping. From there you can
ask them for advice on budgeting as well as talk about what it is they would
like to pay for and how much they are able to offer. If they seem put-off by
your asking remain calm. Communicate you wanted to be sure of what you as a
couple would be paying for so that you may create an accurate budget for
yourselves. They may need some time to think it over so do give the person you
are asking for help from time to think about their answer.
7. Does the wedding party pay for their own attire or are we required to pay for their attire?
It is a nice gesture but you
are not required to purchase your wedding party’s attire. Typically the dresses
and tuxes (attire in general) your wedding party purchases or rents are paid
for by the individuals that have accepted the offer to be a part of your
wedding party. Tuxes can commonly be rented relatively inexpensively but do
keep in mind the financial situation of your ladies when choosing the style of
dress you would like them to wear, especially if you are not buying.
8.Are there hidden expenses involved in
planning for a wedding?
Yes. Always ask your vendor if
they have given you the final and total quote including taxes, delivery, and
set up. Make sure to get final totals broken down on your contract or an
invoice so that you know exactly what you are being charged for. Corkage fees
and cake cutting fees may also apply depending on the venue and bartender you
Writing thank you notes can be a chore for some and entertaining for others. Regardless of your level of interest in the activity you'll want to follow a few easy rules. Keep your thank you notes simple, positive, and to the point. It is best to be have them in the mail within three months of the wedding date. Etiquette however indicates that you have a full year to mail your wedding thank you notes.
Four Thank You Note Templates
Dear Cynthia and Troy,
We can't begin to express how grateful we are for your generous monetary gift. Our appreciation for your efforts to attend our wedding celebration and be such a big part of our special day is beyond words. We are looking forward to seeing you again this summer!
All Our Love,
Marissa and Timothy
Greetings Mrs. Smith,
It is a shame you could not join us on our wedding day. You were well missed! The crystal vase and picture frame are lovely. Every time we look at them we will think of you and this very special occasion. Thank you for your kind gift and thoughts on our wedding day!
Thea and Michael
Uncle Joe and Aunt Mary,
Thank you for contributing to our honeymoon registry. We absolutely loved the dolphin experience you gifted us. The wine in our room was such a sweet touch as well. We thoroughly enjoyed that treat. Thanks again for celebrating such an important day with us. Your presence meant so much to both of us!
Lots of Love,
Stacie and Jordan
Thank you so very much for the cooking supplies. We can't wait to put them to good use and have you and Adam over for dinner sometime. Thank you for joining our wedding day celebration and for thinking of us!
With Much Love,
Amanda and Joshua
dishes on her favorite bridesmaid gifts for this wedding season.
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Three items Lauren recommends for bridesmaids' thank you gift bags:
Beauty, Comfort, and Style
Three of the most common wedding shoe concerns resolved here!
Purchase Heel Protectors
If you have chosen to wear stilettos or thin heels at your outside wedding you may now be concerned about sinking into the grassy areas. Don't worry! There is a product available to protect your heels and aid in you not sinking into the grass while you enjoy your outside wedding. They are typically clear and simply slip over your existing heels, so they are easy to use.
Click the links below to shop our favorite heel protectors. www.amazon.com/STOPPERS-Heel-Protectors www.amazon.com/Soulmates
Don't Want To Wear Heels All Day...
Choose Two Pairs Of Shoes
You may find a pair of flip flops, flats, or sneakers are suited for comfort but may not be the style you want for your ceremony and photos. Wear the shoes you adore, even if they are slightly uncomfortable, for your wedding ceremony and photos. Bring a second, more comfortable, pair of shoes for dancing later in the evening. This will give your feet a break on where they are being rubbed by the shoes you are wearing and allow you to have the best of both worlds.
Committed To Style... Add Extra Cushion
If you are in love with your wedding shoes and want to wear them throughout your entire special day, but are concerned about ending up with sore and blistered feet add some extra cushion. There are many products available to protect just about any part of your foot from suffering damage and stress. You won't have to give up all comfort for style.
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Most couples have some music selections in mind, but are unsure
of just what parts of their special day call for specific music choices.
The list below will prepare you for the song selections
your DJ or band will request from you as a couple.
Prelude: played before the ceremony begins
Processional: played while parents (and sometimes
grandparents) and wedding party walk down the aisle
Bride Entrance: played only for the bride
Interlude: played during a special part of the ceremony or
between to mainly fill silences (ex. lighting of the unity candles, crown
ceremony, sand ceremony…etc.)
Recessional: played during the exit of the parents, wedding
party, and bride & groom
Postlude: played as guests exit the ceremony location
Introduction Music: played while the parents (and sometimes
grandparents), wedding party, and bride & groom enter the reception
(looping song or separately chosen song)
First Dance: played while bride & groom only dance
Mother & Son Dance: played while mother of the groom and
the groom only dance
Father & Daughter Dance: played while father of the
bride and bride only dance
Wedding Party: played while the bride & groom, wedding
party, and any other selection of groups of people dance
Bridal/Money/Apron Dance: played while the bride & groom
dance with individuals or groups of guests…guests in turn give money and
receive a shot, cookie, or other token of appreciation
Bouquet Toss/Garter Toss: played while the garter is being
taken off and being tossed to single men attendants along with when the bouquet
is being tossed to single lady attendants (typically two different songs)
Cake Cutting: played while the bride & groom cut the
Last Dance: played as the last song of the wedding night